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Jerome J. Lazar, RA, CCS, CSI, SCIP
Senior Member
Username: lazarcitec
Post Number: 728
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, September 19, 2010 - 06:16 am: |    |
At 4:05am Friday morning, Sept 17, 2010, my wife Susie passed away from complications from Advance Ovarian Cancer which she had been battling since June '08. Susie managed to fight off two other primary cancers the year before and was in remission from them, but Ovarian Cancer proved to be too debilitating to overcome. Susie and I were married for almost 27 years, she was a very caring person who believed in taking care of others more than herself. Susie was a registered nurse and an Advanced Registered Nurse Practitioner for over 30 years and left her impact on many of her patients and colleagues. This hideous disease and the poisons she had to take to fight it took at lot from my wife, our daughter, and me, but my wife gave me so much esp. the past three years that I have become a much more sensitive and caring person, father, and architect.
For my friends who had the good fortune to meet Susie, you know what I mean and for those who did not, I will share a recent story with you that will be repeated at the funeral service tomorrow:
Many of Susie's friends and coworkers have called me to tell me how much they loved Susie, how much she meant to them as a coworker and a friend, I just got a call while typing this from one of the male nurses who took care of Susie over the past few months, Joey said that what was amazing about Susie was how she cared so much about others, while Joey was taking care of Susie, Susie could see he was favoring his right wrist, she diagnosed him as having tendernitis and made him put a splint on it, here he was cleaning up her vomit, and she was treating him (Susie had specialized in Ortho over past 8 years). Joey told me that Susie was 100% correct, he had put on a splint and in a few days he was using it without pain. Joey could not believe that Susie cared so much about his welfare even though she obviously felt like crap. That was my Susie.
So I hope all of you reading this will pray for my wife one more time.
During the past two weeks, when Susie's condition declined rapidly I thought about what I would do after she passed away, because I love Susie so much, I thought about ending my life and joining her, but than I realized that my daughter needs me (for at least a little while) and I needed to fulfill some promises I had made to Susie.
My wife was so forgiving of the time and efforts I had to provide my profession, She understood my needs an dmy problems, better than I did.
I will truly miss Susie, I will miss taking care of her, and I will miss her beautiful smile.
My office will be closed until end of month.
Thanks to my friends for their support and patience during the past 3 years.
Jerome (Jerry) and Andrea (Andi) Lazar |
Robin E. Snyder
Senior Member
Username: robin
Post Number: 334
Registered: 08-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, September 19, 2010 - 12:25 pm: | |
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! It sounds like your wife was a truly amazing person who made life brighter and more joyful for those who were blessed to know her (and probably many more that didn't know her, but knew people she affected). Take care of yourself and your daughter. All my love, Robin |
Lynn Javoroski CSI CCS LEEDŽ AP SCIP Affiliate
Senior Member
Username: lynn_javoroski
Post Number: 1105
Registered: 07-2002
| | Posted on Monday, September 20, 2010 - 09:14 am: | |
Jerry,
Our prayers are with you and Andi. Know that God loves you both and will be with you during your time of sorrow. He will sustain you and comfort you, of this I am sure. His grace will be evident in your lives - as it already is manifested by the outpouring of love from Susie's co-workers, and by friends who didn't even know her, but whose lives have been touched.
Lynn |
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| | Posted on Sunday, September 19, 2010 - 10:45 pm: | |
Jerry - I am so sorry to hear that Susie has passed. You, Susie and Andi will be in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there for Andi. The road ahead is long, but I have faith in you. - Curt |
Paul Gerber
Senior Member
Username: paulgerber
Post Number: 25
Registered: 04-2010
| | Posted on Monday, September 20, 2010 - 09:53 am: | |
Jerry:
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Andi and the rest of your family.
Sharing stories like you just did with us about happy times with Susie and the wonderful things she did will keep her alive in your hearts forever.
I am beginning to understand your pain as my significant other's best friend is in the final stages of her battle with leukemia. Her and Kate have been like sisters for the last 20+ years and Jamie has been by her side through her battle for the last 2.5 years, including being on life support last March (2008) and a bone marrow transplant this past February. As much as we hate the thought of Kate not being around, I know you also understand not wanting to see a loved one suffer any longer than they have to. Cancer truly is a horrible disease!
Take comfort in knowing that all of Susie's earthly pain and suffering are over and she is in a place of peace and eternal love. Also, trust in God's love and strength. It can see us through all of our challenges.
Ride it like you stole it!!! |
(Unregistered Guest)
Unregistered guest
| | Posted on Sunday, October 03, 2010 - 08:57 pm: | |
Jerry
I sometimes think how lucky we are to enjoy the independence that comes from a career that allows us so much freedom of thought. We could not do that without the support of those that love us. Your lost is shared by all of us that owe so much to those that stay by our side through the difficulties of providing for their needs while we pursue our passions.
Dick |
W. Dean Walker, AIA, CCS, SCIP
Senior Member
Username: wdwalkerspecs
Post Number: 34
Registered: 08-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, October 10, 2010 - 10:15 pm: | |
Jerry you have my sympathy. In December of 2008 my wife Sandie died from Acute Myeloid Leukemia. We had been married 40 years. I was fortunate to find a grief support group at a local cancer support center and I remained strong in my faith by continuing to participate in church activities and professional activities. I think this is my first post to 4-specs since just before she passed away. The first year is the hardest but with your daughter by your side your will get through it as I did with the aid of my two daughters. |
Rick Stow (Unregistered Guest)
Unregistered guest
| | Posted on Monday, October 11, 2010 - 10:36 am: | |
Jerry - I was so sadden to hear of Susie and be assured my prayers go with her. I was late receiving this message so I assume my address has fallen off your mail list. If you could add it back I would appreciate. After you get back into the swing lets get together. |
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